You may even want to consider a close crop. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life. Get a shorter haircut before you start treatment â it will make your hair look thicker and may help hair loss seem less noticeable to others later on. Itâs been nearly 11 years since my father died (I was 18 when it happened), so I think I can safely say Iâve been through it all; the shock, the sadness, the anger, the guilt, and, eventually, the acceptance. It took a conscious, concerted effort to feel more confident about my looks. To come to terms with feeling ugly, start by confronting beauty standards that may be warping the way you see yourself. Especially after children. Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go. After all, what does 50 really look like today? Accepting your mortality. ... For your beauty to be ambushed, brutalized, and eventually completely destroyed by the aging process. Youth is a distant memory, middle age is long gone; youâre a senior citizen and you look like one. It surely isn't the picture we have of our mothers or grandmothers. He fought a hart battle and I cried for all those years. Masks are brittle. If you settle into your new skin you'll probably find you start to look better in your own eyes and you'll naturally come across better to others. Coming to Terms with Aging. The grieving process. I know because I loss my son in November after a 5 1/2 year battle with StageIV colon cancer. Being proactive before you lose your hair may make it less upsetting and improve your self confidence. That's right! It's going to happen. When your body changes after children, itâs ⦠Grieving is a highly individual experience; thereâs no right or wrong way to grieve. And believe me, itâs not just about âlooksâ on a surface levelâthe way you feel about your looks is a key signifier of the way you think about yourself. It is not only a physical loss but a piece of your heart is missing. It's a loss of control. Death is an unavoidable part of the cycle of life, yet many of us do everything we can to avoid accepting our mortality. I first want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. Or you could get a lot of plastic surgery, and everyone can feel sorry for you, because now you're the woman who got a lot of plastic surgery. The people on TV and in magazines aren't perfect in real life -- the images you see are manipulated and you shouldn't judge your own beauty by those standards! Stop hiding, take a look and see what's coming. When he passed, it was not peaceful because he was in excruciating pain. I think plasticked faces look super odd though and I don't think it helps anyone. Masks are fake. 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